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Unfortunately, because of the economy, the offer wasn’t what we had hoped for. The condo was in a prime location with great views and commutes, but it was just too small for us. So we had to decide: Stay where we are until (hopefully) the economy improves or take the offer and get out while we can? After much deliberating, we chose the latter choice.
So while we were excited about finally moving to a bigger place with more room (for all of my clothes and shoes!), it was a change and change (good or bad) can be nerve racking. Especially for worrywarts. Why? Well, because change can lead to uncertainty. Yes, ultimately, moving was probably the best decision for us right now. But as a worrywart, I couldn’t help wondering a bunch of what ifs. What if the commute is even worse than what I’m imagining? What if we’re moving to an area that’s not as safe? What if our new neighbors aren’t nice? What if we’re really not making the right decision? What if? What if? What if?
What’s even more nerve racking than dealing with one change? Dealing with two changes at once. While contemplating the move, my cat, Minnie, passed away. Minnie (who was twenty and a half years old!), was a part of my family for most of my life. Of course, it has been very difficult accepting Minnie is gone, but it has been overwhelming accepting so much change at the same time.
Despite all of these changes, I have to say I’ve done pretty well dealing with...well, life. How was I able to accept change and move on with my life? Well, it wasn’t easy. Minnie has been gone for about a month now, and my heart still sinks every time I realize she won’t run around the corner when we walk into the house. But you can’t live in the past; you have to more forward. You can remember the past and cherish the memories, but you have to get your mind on other things. Reading good books and working have helped me during this difficult time. Also, since my husband and I just happened to be in the process of moving, I had a lot of things to occupy my mind.
As for the move, there were some things I did to bring some normalcy back to my life. I worked on one room at a time to make it as livable as possible. First, I got the bedroom in order because sleep is very important for worrywarts (we need good sleep each night so our nervous systems don’t get out of whack and we worry more!). Second, I made sure the bathroom was useable. Third, we decorated the living room similar to our former one, which brought some normalcy back into our lives. Now, I barely think of our old place and our new house feels just like home.
As Kathleen Kelly (played by Meg Ryan) said in “You’ve Got Mail,” “People are always saying change is a good thing, but what they are really saying is something you didn’t want to happen happened.” Whether we like it or not, change is a part of life and there’s not much we can do about it. Sometimes even a good change like a move can be overwhelming and difficult, but you just have to push forward and find joy in life again.
Need more advice for accepting change? I found this site, which has some good advice.
Until next time, don't worry about a thing! :-)
